FVB recently learned the phrase “NO WAY, JOSE!” This is an awesome phrase for a two year old, because they basically say no to everything, so it might as well rhyme and sound cute. FVB, being the individual that he is, made the phrase his own by saying “NO WAY HOSEY.” He also likes to add the person’s name to the phrase, just to truly get his point across. So, I often here the phrase “NO WAY HOSEY MOMMY” as a response to my requests. It has a nice ring to it, don’t you think?
Some days, parenting a two year old is just simply too exhausting, and I tell FVB that I’m tired of parenting for the day and that I’m going to lay down and read my book for awhile. Then he sees my iPad (where I read all of my books) and starts chanting “Look at no-plows, mommy iPad” over and over and over and over again until I either give in or muster the energy to come up with a diversion. Our most successful diversion these days is going outside. Thankfully, spring is in the air and most days we have nice weather. We frequent the playground (that’s walkable!) and we also love spending time in our own backyard. We moved in late last summer, so this is our first spring and we are discovering a lot of flowers! We have 7+ garden beds filled with mystery flowers and/or weeds, so I have a lot to do to keep me busy out there while FVB plays! We (hubs) also tilled a large area in the yard to create a garden, so we have high hopes for produce this year. We are planning on: lettuce, spinach, kale, cucumbers, peas, broccoli, squash, zucchini, pumpkins, watermelon, tomatoes, peppers, and some herbs. I painted some adorable garden markers (Pinterest WIN!) that I’m eager to get outside. We are still waiting to be in the clear for outdoor planting– believe it or not we may still get a frost! In our true fashion, we jumped head first into seed starting, paying no attention to when certain plants can be planted outside. So we wound up having to plant some squash, zucchini, and pumpkin outside a few weeks before we should have. They are doing quite poorly…..but hubs is still holding out hope for them. We are chalking this up as our “learning year,” so we may or may not have a high yield garden. Hey, learn as you go, right?
Although FVB has the typical struggles of a two-year-old, he also has shown tremendous growth, especially with separating from me. We have lived here almost a year, and he can now happily go with my mom (his KK) with no tears. Up until this point, we would have to talk about what we were going to do for several hours beforehand, and he’d often cry just thinking about it. More often than not, I wouldn’t bother having KK take him, because I hated to get him so upset. I held on to the idea that he’d go happily once he was ready. So much of what you read these days really pushes independence and “forcing” your child to separate from you so that they’ll learn how to be comfortable without you. That never felt right to me, and since I’m home with him, and can pretty much do everything I need to do with him in tow, I have mostly just kept him. KK would take him to the library here and there, or to Lowe’s, or to play at her house, and it was (mostly) successful. (I only got the call once to come and get him when he wasn’t able to settle down). These days, though, he barely looks my way when we say goodbye, just says over his shoulder “see ya soon mommy!” as he heads off with KK on a fun adventure. It is a great reminder to me that children grow in their own time and reach milestones when they are good and ready. I’m hoping this will be the case with nursing, because MY GOODNESS am I tired of nursing!! We are down to only a few times a day (waking up, before nap, usually early evening, and before bed). Nights are a different story, but I feel like we are making (slow) progress. I often tell him “not now,” and distract him with something else. I struggle some days and desperately want to be done nursing, but other days I feel really good about continuing to nurse him. It’s hard to find support with extending nursing, as the majority of moms are NOT nursing toddlers, and most people just assume that I should wean him if I’m not loving every minute of nursing him. As with anything, everyone has an opinion on this topic. Luckily, there are only two people who get a say in this particular matter– me and FVB! I’m trusting that it’ll work out as it should. In the meantime, FVB is eating a good amount of food in addition to his “milky.” Like all toddlers, he loves fruit, bread, and pasta. He tries most things though, and even enjoys eating salad (sometimes). We aim for three meals and two snacks, but follow the philosophy of “eat when you’re hungry.”
That is our update! We have over 500 “likes” on Facebook and I have been updating our page much more regularly than I have been writing a full post. Today I was lucky enough to have both a sleeping toddler and a sleeping husband, so naturally I slipped into the office to write =)
Have a fantastic weekend!